Where Is Your X Factor?

"Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical."

I just love that quote from Sophia Loren.

If you ask most people what they find most attractive in others they will say confidence. When you think about people with the x factor, is it not just self- confidence?

How do you define self-confidence? Dictionary.com says

“realistic confidence in one’s own judgment, ability, power, etc. … belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities”

So how do you build self-confidence? You can choose to be your own biggest critic or fan. I am a big believer in love yourself first, warts and all, because it allows us to have compassion, tolerance and love for others. Start thinking about yourself like a master piece, because that’s where the value lies in you. By loving, and letting your unique beauty inside and out shine through, you become attractive to others. And by attractive I mean not the “good looking” attractive (though I’m sure you are) I mean that x-factor attraction.

 We all want to feel great and have happy loving relationships in our lives. You can start by focussing on what you DO have instead of what you don’t.

 My top 3 tips for feeling and nurturing your X-factor

Find your inner voice that loves you (it’s in there) and make sure you hear it every day. Focus on how it makes you feel and remember you have the choice to be the critic or the fan of the master piece that you are.

Be aware of what makes you feel good about yourself , eg exercise, spending time with friends, having time out  with a candlelit bath . Build up your feel good experiences, because in life like the weather, there will be storms and  you need a refuge.

Think about what are the little things in your day that make you feel happy. Be grateful for these little things because from little things, big things grow!

 And to top it off, here’s another great quote from Sophia Loren,

"After all these years, I am still involved in the process of self-discovery. It's better to explore life and make mistakes than to play it safe. Mistakes are part of the dues one pays for a full life."